Picture this: you’re going about your normal day, doing whatever it is that you do each day. When suddenly, a phone call comes in. Your loved one has to have emergency surgery for one reason or another. What happens now? You frantically run about, trying to get everything into place and get yourself into the car and over to the hospital.
Suddenly, you feel that old familiar sting, the pain is coming back. In the midst of all the chaos, you didn’t feel it for a few moments. How do you deal with this in a situation such as that? You’re torn between being strong for your loved one, while trying to deal with the intense amount of pain that you feel. What happens now? How can you deal with all of this at once?
This was my situation yesterday. My little sister, Jessica, also a fellow Fibrofighter was rushed to the ER yesterday morning by my stepdad because she had been throwing up all night and couldn’t keep anything down. Turns out, she has appendicitis, and she is having emergency surgery as we speak. I’m blogging to keep my mind busy, because if I don’t, I will surely fall apart. So it got me to thinking, what are some of the steps that I can take to stay strong for my loved one while still taking care of myself?
The first thing that came to my mind was to take a step back for a moment. It is important to make sure that you yourself are okay before anything else, because really, how strong can you be if you don’t take care of yourself first? So the first thing is to breathe. Stop for a moment and take a few deep cleansing breaths. Take a drink of water if you need it, and make sure you eat something, just in case the cafeteria is closed when you get there (it might be late at night).
The other important thing to do is to speak to another family member or friend, to let them know what is going on. By doing this, you are reaching out to someone else. Let them know that you are indeed worried for your loved one, and a little scared. Tell them that you may need them to be there for you, even if it’s just someone to talk to. There is nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it, nothing.